
I got a pap smear today. I hate getting pap smears.
On the other side of the world, women wait in a hospital, some living in cardboard slums outside for months, waiting for an operation that will give them back their status as human beings.
Status they'd never have lost as even the poorest, most oppressed western woman. These women suffer from
Surgical repairs are mostly crude or absent, and efforts are underfunded. Occasionally, flesh from the labia majora is used to patch a hole in the vagina, and it continues to grow hair. Multiple operations are common. In some cases, full continence is never regained even after multiple surgeries. This problem is alleviated, a community at a a time, when routine obstetric care becomes both accessible and affordable.
We don't hear much about this. We hear much more about female genital mutilation. We hear about burkas. We hear about child marriage among the roma. We hear about the trafficking of young mac

Fistulas aren't about sex. They're about women's health. And they're about childbirth (something we, and I know I love to divorce from anything sexual). They're about piss and shit and fear of contamination. They're about political, economic, and pragmatic prioritization that neglects preventitive and urgent care, leaving some women with a chronic, sometimes debilitating condition that leaves them as lepers.
I hate getting a pap smear. I never want to have children. The latter is a choice; the former I can't prevent. I live in a country where gynecological care is nearly mandatory. I'm not trusted NOT to have children without a yearly check from a gynecologist. What absurd luxury. What ridiculous excess. What a world. A ceasarian section costs nine month's pay in Nigeria (Outreach programmes for obstetric fistulae. Kelly, J.. Journal of Obstetrics & Gynaecology, Mar2004, Vol. 24 Issue 2, p117, 2p-118) and my unneccesary yearly exam (that I bitch and bitch and bitch about) was free.